NEWSFLASH: WOMEN'S EXISTENCE CRITICISED (AGAIN?)
Now, let me introduce to you the problem with gendered language. At first, women, do you really appreciate being labelled with the terms 'chick', 'sugar', or even 'tart'? A few of these terms can be seen as very endearing to a woman from the perspective of a man. But when it comes to certain nicknames for men such as being called 'sweetheart', it can be taken as very patronising as it somehow questions their masculinity, as linquist Janet Holmes also argues. For centuries, the English language has discriminated against women, and many theorists have contributed to this oppression. Just for a minute, could men stop using their advantage to portray women as the weaker sex? Please? Also, how has semantic derogation always been acceptable in society over time? I support Dale Spender's belief in his Dominance Approach that language is inherently antrocentric. Meaning that although women have progressively made their turn in language throughout time, the power and control men have always seemed to have over each other and especially women, unfortunately proven through emotional abuse and domestic violence, has always been there. Always will. Although this does not mean I agree with a 'man made language' in the slightest! I believe that both genders should have an equal say in their language, and there is pages full of evidence to prove that this is a widespread opinion for many.There are several theorists who published reports in the late 20th century to prove the evidence that women are deficient, therefore state all the continuous biases women experience over time. One of which is Deborah Tannen, who created the idea of the 'difference approach' which, as the title indicates, the theory is about how males and females truly differ, and how men and women belong to different subcultures and preferences. She expresses this in her book 'You Just Don't Understand' where she claims she identified six main differences between the ways men and women use language. However, this approach avoids 'blaming' men for being dominant, and avoids suggesting women's speech is inferior. It can therefore be criticised for not only perpetuating stereotypes and missing concrete evidence, but it also separating men and women into binary groups and excluding transgender and non binary people. Theorist Jennifer Coates then looks at all female conversation and builds on Deborah Tannen's ideas as she argues all female talk is cooperative and that speakers negotiate discussions and support each other's rights as speakers, but these patterns are not found in mixed sex talk.
However, on a not so positive note, there are also theorists who unequivocally criticise women for pretty much everything they do. Would it be possible for individuals to tone down on making women feel inferior just this once? Let's take Robin Lakoff and his 'Deficit Approach' for example. Lakoff says that women use less assertive language such as the common use of tag questions to seek validation from men, and take longer to get to the point solely because of this. But maybe we just take longer getting to the point through natural instinct? I personally don't see how a male's influence could contribute to this, and neither does a criticiser of this approach, Pamela Fishman, who argues against the fact women use tag questions to seek validation and instead accepts this is primarily down to male dominance, as they are reluctant to conversation starting as they label it as 'shitwork' so instead use tag questions to start dialogue. Furthermore, O'Barr and Atkins support this as not only did they study the language of the courtroom and found that female lawyers to be assertive and interrupt, but also found that witnesses of both sexes would use Lakoff's weak 'female language' and concluded these 'weak' language traits are actually a 'powerless language' rather than a 'female language'. Deficient? Dominated? DONE. This is laughable now really.
For the record, I'm female. Though just because I'm female, doesn't mean I hate men. It also does not make me insensitive. Yes, I agree men's authority can be taking over the rights of women's language, and the prejudice women receive from this is happening on a frequent basis. Too often. And certain linguists are certainly not helping. But just because this is happening doesn't mean we're going to hold ourselves against the opposite sex forever, right? We have a choice, to be critical and react to this issue in an nonsensical way or to be a part of the solution. Isn't equality what we want?